In view of what has been observed on this Board over the past few days, I think we could all do with having a read at the following.

* No matter what group you are in, someone will always make you mad.

* No matter what group you are in, you will always make someone else mad.

* Being online shouldn't be any different than real life.

* That said, it *is* different than real life, so get used to it.

* Attacking a statement is OK. Attacking a person is not. The former is the basis of all debate and discussion. The latter is a cheap shot.

* Always reread a post before making it final. Make sure you said what you meant to say.

* Don't be afraid to write a post detailing exactly how you feel--and then hitting the cancel button. It helps you vent, but you don't drag on the flame war.

* Don't be afraid to walk away from a conversation going south. Many people refuse to do this, thinking that backing down is a sign of weakness. Trust that people can evaluate what has been written for themselves. Also trust that nothing you write to continue a flame war (as opposed to a discussion) is likely to change anyone's opinion of you, except perhaps to make it worse.

* If you really don't like where you are hanging out, then leave. No one is forcing you to read someone else's posts, and no one is forcing you to write a nasty message in response.

* You are extremely unlikely to end up changing someone else's view on a topic, particularly if that topic is politics or religion.

* There are some truly remarkable and fascinating people out there, if you take the time to listen and learn.

* Realize that even the best of us have bad days.